It’s nearly December, Advent etc and so the popup chalet shops are in Slab Square, the Christmas Lights have been switched on and look lovely (check the twitter feed on the sidebar there’s some pic Retweets!) and Wollaton Park has a few Winter and Christmas Events!
The Shopping Malls are decorated in all the EMids and SYorks Cities, the village pubs are overflowing with Yuletide Cheer, Mulled Wine in Chocolate Box Derbyshire villages. Restaurant meal deals are all across the region (Notts Derbys and Leics, Rutland and Lincs, SYorks!) towns with Stilton Cheese suppers, local frosty markets and super Stately Homes and Estates with all kinds of Christmas Events plus the Theatres with Pantomimes and other shows!
Its happiness packaged till New Year – be canny and go for the sensible but super Yuletide! If working, thanks, remember you can celebrate a week early or a week later!!
It is of course Thanksgiving Day in the US
To Digress and ‘For the Record’ today as it’s important for various reasons an almost accounting for self:- and to ‘put things straight’ this WollyPark blog person – Dily’s wants folks to know it would be her 35th Wedding Anniv today 24th Nov! (cept the divorce happened with no fault and no maint not too long after!) &
Deep Thoughts … They often happen around Christmas Season as the planning starts …
No we two didn’t walk the park together – that is really strange to me; sadly we were ‘doing a house up with a joint mge’ in Wollaton and it all ended and neither wanted to lose our home!
Personally, I did however spend most of my childhood in the park and maybe thats a really good thing! We separated – and a few years later we made a Ltd. Co. together, ltd shares and all – sadly that didn’t go far either! I was asked to get back together afterwards many times but didn’t think it wise.
I stayed put in the locality with my new love and looked after my little parents; they lived here in Wollaton. Strangely they didn’t visit the park either with me, not even as as a child my friends and I were sent off to play and tire ourselves out without adults!
Maybe my folks walked the park together without the kids! We did however; the parents and I, spend hours, weekends and holidays in all kinds of greenspace all over the region and UK and take tons of landscape pics! – meanwhile or sometime later, a certain other person worked around the world. As did other Special people. He also had another relationship in Wollaton that also ended sadly and moved on.
We all watched Bob Geldof and the Feed the World Concert – I hoped my most special person, group were playing! I liked my new phase.
Wollaton and Nottm were my childhood and are still my Home, the Church has changed (different people now) from the Flower Arranging days looking after the flower art folk with my little mum and her friends. This place is half of my families home etc. the other half being from the South Coast and the Navy, the Channel and Castles.
Thinking of bringing people together isn’t always simple.
It’s lovely to be able to sing the praises of the lovely EMids both sides of the Trent and also S.Yorks on the blog. We – my ex and I, made up after our divorce more or less for a short while on and off and although communities often think the women gain and men lose in divorce it’s not necessarily so:- we went our 50/50 way with no maintenance and a house sold (v sad) and we carried on with our lives. If you are reading this ‘Happy Anniversary’ dear.
Both have had and have other relationships and although this is weird in some families and communities, in the UK and EMids its quite ordinary!
Love the one you are with, and have a Happy Future.
This goes especially for my own family and other young people in the community with complicated families. We do think about the situations we create and it’s not particularly modern, folks would move on in relationships in villages – by the village green ‘rules’.
Today as I reminisce, it’s Love to the in-law extended family from ’76 onwards, we had some fun days, I saw folks grow up, and although we didn’t keep in touch enough, its good to know we tried to be civilised eventually!! Its sad the wedding was so quiet too but thats another story long in the telling!
Love to my own extended family – locally and around the UK, soz we married all those years ago so quietly! We’re a reasonably tolerant bunch and almost sophisticated so it was ok with the caveat of living together first and the sadness of not staying together.
Thinking of now (as women) 35 years on. As the ordinary retirement age extends for women of my age its particularly poignant how we have been treated and how the system just hasn’t lived up to extended tolerant and equality ideals – creating bitter women as well as working men isn’t so cool. Lower wages and salaries and inequality was part of our lives. It is no better now with zero contracts etc – we were temp workers sometimes – the establishment thought we should rely on marriage but not everyone’s partner is on a high salary from the beginning.
We dont begrudge the lucky ones who stayed together – it just ‘is’.
We loved and lost – it wasn’t meant to be that way but lifes not simple!
Thinking of the chaos this system can create even years later is for brave folk. …
So the spin-off is ‘Words of wisdom for Christmas’ if you have to work and leave your partner with relatives please dont let it ruin your lives! Plan a family get together somewhere you can all stay over – Hotel, YHA even, etc so the pressure is off!
Christmas and Yuletide should be happy not stressed and falling out or too many compromises – adapting is very cool!
More than one extended family can be normal …
So Today it’s “Happy Anniversary – & Happy ‘Have thought of you and special folks many times’ Day
Kind Words for 35 years gone by.
Now, speaking of dear (lateral thinking over and back to focusing on the Blog!)
The Red Deer and the Fallow Deer are of course in training and resting for their big night on 25 Dec. You can see them in the park, they are the UK’s largest animals please take care as they might be as unhappy the summer is over as you are. kk.
Enjoy the Festie Season 2014.
Wollaton Hall also hosts Wedding’s and Wedding Fayres throughout the Year – the Industrial Museum should do the same with divorce celebrations maybe? The Anvil etc.
There are Santa Specials at the GCRN and happenings at the Framework Knitters, and much more. Lots of Garden Centre wonderlands – stay Happy!
Capoaccino, Latte in the Cafe and a brisk Greenspace walk, a lovely dinner – enjoy Christmas on whatever budget! Say hi to a neighbour you dont normally talk to. Be Cheerful!
Employers – be kind (pay too of course, and sensible hours) to employees esp those with kids please!! V Important!
Poorly folk – hope the Christmas Season isn’t too much and theres someone who cares, ditto old folk.
Heres to Friends esp old Friends
Heres to 2015 and many more years to come – to all the close Family, Extended Families, The Christmas Card List, The Friends past and present, the Region and to Civilised Tolerance and to one or two Very Special People!
Here’s to a Happy Christmas Season.
Please dont drink if you are driving , not even if working the next day – bars have awesome just fruit cocktails please.